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Nothing to be frightened of

I haven’t blogged for some weeks, but the recent news stories around assisted dying prompted me to share with you a fantastic book I have just finished. It is called The Welcome Visitor and is co-written by John Humphrys and Dr Sarah Jarvis. I have touched on this book in a previous post when I was reflecting on the death of my brother-in-law last year see https://unfinishedchristian.wordpress.com/2009/07/03/dignity-and-death/ .

This book is incredibly moving, and I would recommend it to anyone who has not yet mulled over the practical issues around caring for a loved one as they may pay the price for living longer and not dying as you are they would want them to. You see Humphrys and Dr Jarvis deal with the ethical, mental, physical, physiological ,spiritual and practical issues around the death of a loved one with such care, dignity, empathy and humanity. These are people who care about people;  they know what it is to have loved and lost for themselves and they want to see others learn from their experience. They take a wider look at how our attitudes to death have changed as doctors have learned how to prolong life beyond anything that could have been imagined a few generations ago. So, are we keeping people alive because we should or simply because we can? As the book itself outlines; “there are no easy answers, but the first step must be to accept that death can be as welcome as it is inevitable.”


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How long does a man live?

Earlier today I blogged about a prayer for Father’s Day. Within my own family my prayers go out to my nephew Matthew and his half-brothers and sister.  Today they will spend their first Father’s day without their dad. Almost a year on from Michael’s death the sense of hurt, pain and loss is still very tangible within the family and on this day in particular his children will feel very low. Please pray for them as their is much healing and reconciliation needed as people get angry with each other and God about this situation.  In additional please pray for children everywhere who are missing their fathers who are departed, missing or estranged.

I leave you with the tributes paid by Michael’s children Matthew and Ollie at the memorial service last year.

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For all we know

Last year my brother-in-law died and I was involved in helping put together a remarkable memorial service- attended by around 600 people. It was a great sadness for me and my family, yet in putting together the service we discovered just how much Michael was loved and treasured be a wide range of people from all walks of life for his “spiritual intelligence and humanity.” I prayed with Michael on a number of occasions whilst he was resident in the hospice in his final weeks…the rest is down to Michael and God. Tonight in the O2 my family will see Ollie  Marland(featured in the video below playing a musical tribute to his father along with brother Matthew reading a poem) playing keyboards for Tina Turner who will be belting up songs such as What’s Love Got to Do With it. Well, as far as Michael and God are concerned love has everything to do with it….we don’t need another hero!

To see other tributes follow this link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4mMy5TzAuk&feature=related

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